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Rights, Equality & Women with Authority

As hundreds of people were arrested protesting the Supreme Court nomination of Brett Kavanaugh, a man who has been accused of sexual assault, it got me thinking about rights, equality and braveness. With sexism, trust and the disparage of women firmly under the spotlight this year, it‹³›s certainly changed my mood. Despite whether you agree or disagree, I’m sure you’ll have some thoughts on it.
Within the message what stood out for me most was female authority. Not just in this context though, I‹³›m talking authority in life as a woman and our authority generally. From the work place to the street and everywhere in between. Right now people are no longer afraid of speaking up and for my friends and I, female empowerment is definitely more of a ‹³›thing‹³›. Most girls I know are challenging the norm and now that I have a daughter of my own, being authoritative and assertive as a woman has never been more important. Here’s what I bear in mind when reminding myself that being a strong, confident and authoritative woman doesn’t take much.

Stop worrying about being liked‹¨›/h1‹˜›‹¨›p style‹´›‹²›text-align: center;‹²›‹˜›When I was in my young twenties, I didn‹³›t care about what people thought of me. I moved to London at 22 and was truly at my most confident. Yes I knew it was a busy city, I knew there were millions of people here and I knew that everyone was different. I loved to date every Friday and Saturday night and I was never nervous. I just enjoyed meeting new people.‹¯›nbsp;In life we each have different likes and dislikes. As individuals, we care for some things more than others. In a world where humans co-exist, it‹³›s impossible to please everyone.‹¨›/p‹˜›‹¨›p style‹´›‹²›text-align: center;‹²›‹˜›As I got older, people‹³›s perceptions of me started to affect me. In some environments (flat shares, relationships, work places) I began to over think things. But all it did was chip away at my self confidence, offering no positives whatsoever. It took a big knock for me to pause and reassess what was going on and now I‹¯›nbsp;care less about what people think of me and more about my actions and choices instead. I‹³›ll never be everyone‹³›s cup of tea but I will be someone‹³›s best friend.‹¨›/p‹˜›” animation_group=”{‹²›selected‹²›:‹²›yes‹²›,‹²›yes‹²›:{‹²›animation‹²›:{‹²›animation‹²›:‹²›slideInUp‹²›,‹²›delay‹²›:‹²›200‹²›}}}” responsive=”{‹²›desktop_display‹²›:{‹²›selected‹²›:‹²›yes‹²›},‹²›tablet_landscape_display‹²›:{‹²›selected‹²›:‹²›yes‹²›},‹²›tablet_display‹²›:{‹²›selected‹²›:‹²›yes‹²›},‹²›smartphone_display‹²›:{‹²›selected‹²›:‹²›yes‹²›}}” class=”” __fw_editor_shortcodes_id=”7641ad95d49ba68023632d34c9ef3da2″ _array_keys=”{‹²›text_advanced_styling‹²›:‹²›text_advanced_styling‹²›,‹²›animation_group‹²›:‹²›animation_group‹²›,‹²›responsive‹²›:‹²›responsive‹²›}” _fw_coder=”aggressive”][/text_block]
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