10 Ways To Stop Comparing

Hi you lovely lot, how are you coping in lockdown? I hope you’re managing to get in that one walk a day and that you’re surviving in your own little way! There is so much change happening right now and with many across the UK losing their jobs, failing to keep up with their rent and even struggling to feed their kids, it’s certainly a time where I’m being mindful and helping in whatever way I can.

The more time we spend in isolation, the easier it becomes to adopt a bad habit. Like, comparing. Comparing is up there with the top worst things to do for mental health, like, ever, and let’s be honest we each have fleeting moments where we dabble in it. Whether the topic of comparison are the parents who are blessed with lots of children, your friend’s lifestyle or even a blogger that you’ve never met, it does happen.

Why Is Comparing Bad?

If the time spent comparing were coins, we may as well lift the letterbox of next door and pour money through. It’s essentially what you’re doing when you compare. You’re giving time to someone – or something – else and taking away from quality time spent filling your own proverbial jar.

We compare the worst of us against the best of others. Behind every Instagram perfect picture is the real story behind the (fake) smile. As I said on my stories the other day, social media is not real life.

Comparing yourself against others also makes you forget that you’re unique. You are you and that is your superpower. Comparison also creates secondary emotions which are useful to… no one. You end up discounting and losing sight of what you do have. Especially if your attention is narrowing only to what others have that you don’t.

You are you and that is your superpower

How To Stop Comparing

1. Accept where you are in your life right now and live in the present (water your own grass).
2. Love your past, present and your future; don’t let your past define you.
3. Try a social media detox or block/mute those who bother you.
4. Design a strategy to stop snooping urges.
5. Practice gratitude for what you do have.
6. Write down 10 things you love about yourself.
7. Talk to yourself as if you’re talking to a friend (be kind).
8. Replace ‘should’ with ‘want’ in your narrative. Eg. I ‘want’ to have this, not, I ‘should’ have this…
9. Celebrate others! Wish them well.
10. Celebrate your own achievements!

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